Best way to get over someone you love deeply in 9 steps

Social media says a lot about someone. Many use it to showcase their happening life, many use it to merely project that their life is happening. Post-breakup, it is important to cut off your ex from social media. If you keep on stalking your ex and come across his or her pictures that indicate he or she is doing well and happy you will have many questions. You might be prompted to seek answers for them as well. So not seeing them daily or avoiding knowing what is happening in their life could help you move on in a better way. Image source

The idea of being friends with you ex sounds really amusing, but right after the breakup this idea is never good. It will only bring more chaos into your life. You may think seeing your ex does not affect you, but whenever you see or hear about their life, your emotions will pour in, memories will rush in.

So save yourself from all of this and cut yourself off from them on social media channels. The best way to get over someone you loved is not to know anything about them, trust me. 3. Don’t keep their things around you, you will be stuck in the past

They gifted you a coffee mug long back and since then you are having your morning coffee in that cup. Stop drinking coffee in that mug, because every morning you’ll be reminded of them. It is easy to counter saying everything around you, every place will have some memory of you both together and whenever you see those things or visit the places you will be reminded, but starting to deliberately avoid these things and places is important. So choose to not think about them when you visit the cafe where you both went for the first date, choose to shift your focus when you wear the dress he/she loved. 4. Don’t try to contact them or look for their whereabouts

You might have mutual friends who could give you information about who your ex is hanging out with these day. Or someone may just casually mention seeing your ex with someone else somewhere. Just say no to all this gossip. Your ex can be peaceful and happy; so don’t get angry on him or her to be living and being happy. Learn that even you should be. Don’t be in touch and don’t try to dig for their whereabouts. 5. Hang out more with your friends

Use this opportunity to reconnect with your friends who you feel were ignored because of your relationship. Apart from this, spend more time with your closest pals. At this time you would need your close friends to be your support system to constantly take your mind off the sad parts of life, so hang out with your friends. Image source 6. Focus on I, work on reconnecting with yourself

This sounds like a bizarre idea, but this is the universal law of gratitude, it works like magic. When you start looking for positives in a very negative situation, you turn your situation into a positive one. Start listing out why you are grateful that the relationship ended. List things that were bad and unhealthy for your mind and soul in that relationship. List things you are able to do because you are not chained in a relationship any more.

The list could be silly or crazy; for example, you are grateful that you can now go out and approach the guy/girl crushing on you for so long and so on. You will feel light and slightly at peace in your heart once you start finding more positives in this situation. And there are so many good reasons to breakup! 8. Release your anger and try forgiving

Don’t let heartbreak or a bad relationship shake your faith in the idea of having a relationship or idea of falling in love with someone again. Understand that not every relationship is meant to stay in your life for eternity. Do not label your relationship as bad, because you both had invested so much time and you have some good memories. You just have more lessons than memories, which is why you ended up breaking up the relationship you built.

Coming out of a long relationship will feel like walking on fire with memories that will only make your heart ache. But all that ends leaves hope for a new beginning, so give another opportunity to yourself by moving on from someone who is in the past. Close the chapter and then move ahead. Maybe you’ll fall for someone, this time harder, and maybe this time they’ll be worth your efforts and love.