Serial fisters tell us how to fist – and why! – vice

My first fisting experience was by myself. I had no idea what I was doing. It wasn’t like I woke up and decided, today I will fist myself. I just thought that if I could take my boyfriend’s dick inside my vagina, then why not use my own hand? So I started with regular masturbation with one or two fingers, but that day, I don’t know why, I used all my fingers until eventually I had the best orgasm in my life. Since then I’ve just kept chasing that feeling.

The sad part of fisting is that you can’t do it properly by yourself. You need someone else, which is better anyway. I enjoy a whole arm inside my vagina for the same reason it’s good to have a tongue inside your mouth or inside your ear.

It’s just pleasure. Everything in life is about seeking pleasure, and I just love feeling like my pussy is eating my boyfriend’s arm. That turns me on, but it’s also about power.

I feel empowered and fierce when my boyfriend is fisting me. That’s because I’m the one who asks for it. I am the one who controls the intensity. I am the one who gives the orders and sometimes I even slap his face while he is inside me. On the other hand, when we are in a regular fuck, he’s the one in control of the situation. I don’t know why, but that’s just how it works for us.

This is the first time that I’ve been asked about fisting without being bought a drink (laughing). Okay, so personally I like to receive, and I definitely wouldn’t stick my hand in a butthole. Actually, I tried that once but it wasn’t my thing. I’m a bottom. I am very bottom. In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever known someone who likes both. Generally, people do one position and one position only.

Fisting basically feels like having an extremely big dick inside your ass. First you think that it won’t fit, but once it’s in there, you feel like the luckiest person in the world. Can I give you a piece of advice? Try it at least once and then tell me how boring your sexual life was before that.

I’ve never counted, but I think I’ve been fisted more than 20 times. And each time was with a different guy, because I’ve always blocked them after sex. They all came from hookup apps, like Hornet or Grindr. I don’t think I’d ask a boyfriend or someone I know to fist me because they’d think I’m too kinky. Also fisting is something I only do when I’m high. I love coke. Not just in my nose, but also inside my ass, because it makes the experience of being fisted so much more comfortable. So I usually meet guys in hookup apps, we do drugs, then I clean my asshole, and we fuck.

I’ve never been fisted—I don’t work as a bottom—but I’ve certainly done some fisting. Most clients normally just want plain good sex, but the ones who want to be fisted usually have a very specific kind of fetish. And I’d say how often I get asked for fisting depends on the local gay culture and community. I think I’d be requested to fist people more if I lived in Europe, for example. And I’ve never been asked by a woman. I think it’s a guy thing. In my experience, it’s the guys who want to take their sex game to another level.

I don’t think fisting required any kind of special preparation. I just try to be slow and careful so I don’t break anything. The main thing is you need lube. Lots of lube. And enjoy it. Sometimes I start playing with my fingers inside the person’s butthole and that makes me hard. And some people can only take it to the wrist. Some will take it mid-arm, others take it all the way up to my elbow. I’m not the one who decides. But you’d be surprised how big a rectal cavity is. You can put an arm in there just fine without harming other organs.

The last time I was fisted was in December. I just remember looking at a Christmas tree while my ex-boyfriend fisted me, and then I fisted him. Both ways can easily make me cum, but I prefer being fisted. It’s a unique feeling. But I hate that my partner has to wear gloves, because they’re uncomfortable. I’m on PrEP now, so I never use condoms in a regular fuck, but I have to use them when I’m fisting.

Fisting has its benefits. Like taking a poo afterwards—it’s fluid, it’s liberating, it’s lovely! But I tell you this because for the first time you’ll be terrified of pooping during action. But then after sex, it’s liberating to take a dump knowing you didn’t poo anywhere you weren’t supposed to.

I think the craziest thing that ever happened to me was a guy asking if he could stick his phone inside my ass. He was planning on filming my insides, like a sex tape. And I was curious and horny so I said, “Okay, let’s do it, but be careful.” So, we tried it but it came out too dark. Maybe the camera on his phone wasn’t good enough to produce some good ass art.